"In your life, you meet people. Some you never think about again. Some, you wonder what happened to them. There are some that you wonder if they ever think about you. And then there are some you wish you never had to think about again. But you do.”
You never know when its going to happen. Maybe you simply open a box, flip through a photo album, go to a restaurant or simply pass someone on the street. It's that moment, that trigger that sends your thoughts spinning and before you know it you are reminiscing about that love that got away. We all do it. It's what we do with it that counts.The world of social networking has made it so much easier to keep in touch with old friends and keep tabs on ex's. We have all done it....gone to the page of that one that got away. Admit it, it feels good when the pics of the ex show him alone, or heavier than the last time you saw him. There is a certain satisfaction that you derive when you see that life isn't quite going his way.
The downside is finding out his life is going better than expected. When you click on the page and notice those dreaded words...."In a relationship". By the time you are done reading the sentence you are already clicking on the pics tab and looking to see what your replacement looks like.
When you really, truly loved someone and the breakup wasn't your decision the process of letting go can be hard. It doesn't matter if you are in your twenties, thirties or even fifties and sixties. Sometimes it just sucks to be alone. And sometimes after a night out with friends after having a few beverages the mind wanders.
We have all fallen victim to the drunk dialing, texting and emailing. All of which can sometimes open pandora's box and unleash the ex back into our thoughts. Sure we convince ourselves that enough time has passed and we are ok with being friends. Never gonna happen. The ex is just that an ex. Regardless of how deep the friendship was, how solid the commitment appeared to be and perfect the sex was the fact remains that he is your ex and he is the ex for a reason.
At somepoint you just finally have to let it go. For some it could take a week to get back out there and move on. Others it takes longer and for some you never really get over that one true love that you lost. But for each of us there is a time when you just have to finally purge him. Take the # out of the cell phone, remove him from your chat lists and delete him from your friends list. Why? Because he is no longer your friend, he is your ex.
1 comments:
I could not have said it better Heather. That is exactly what happened the other night and I acted upon my feelings and sent that email. It's been well over 5 years now and still he creeps into my brain once in a while.
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